Facebook regret

I sound like a broken record when it comes to Facebook, but I guess it’s the updates that always seem to surprise me that people think positive will come from the negative they post. 

I’ll explain… I don’t know what the average number of Facebook friends the average person has, last time I cared enough to look I had around 200. Is that high, or low? I don’t know, but what I do know is that with that number I see a fair few status updates per week. And based on what I see there are trends and there’s probably 20 odd people who based off their status alone I’ve diagnosed. 

Some people reach out for advice and its a quick way to get opinions, but what I wonder is 6 months to 1 year down the track is that person going to look back and think… Why the hell did I write that? I’m sure we’ve all had those moments from time to time, but what I’m referring to is stretchs of 3-6 months where all posts follow the same theme of “poor me”. 

We all need support from time to time, but is writing for an audience of 100+ about how challenging your life is the right option? I’m always for being my most authentic self, but I worry for these people baring their selves for a handful of likes or a few throw-away comments. If life is challenging you and you feel as though your in need of additional support would it not make sense to select your closest friends,family, your mothers group, or even a professional to talk to, or hey write a blog there would be others facing the same battles! 

Surely getting the same few likes or comments on Facebook  isn’t support enough? 

3 thoughts on “Facebook regret

  1. confessionsofachristianmomma says:

    Reblogged this on Confessions of a Christian Momma and commented:
    The Bible has much to say about not speaking too much. Proverbs 21:23 says, “Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.” And Psalm 141:3 says, “Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips!” We have grown into a culture of “venters” and over -exposers. The “poor me” posts on Facebook become out of control, especially when people whine and gripe about their husbands and/or children- those seem to be the most tasteless in my opinion. I have gone through my share of emotional struggles, issues with the hubby, and trials with my children, but I don’t post those negative thoughts or difficult times on my Facebook because I know how horrible it comes off to other people. Not to mention the fact that I don’t want other people to think negatively about my amazing husband and kids due to some posts that I decided (in haste and rash-thinking) to throw onto their feeds. The world is going to judge my husband and children enough- why give them fodder?

    Also, if I have the capability of posting on a social media site all of my complaints, then I have no right to complain at all. Don’t get me wrong, pain is pain, and everyone has the right to be hurt or not feel full of unicorns and rainbows all of the time, but the point is that there is real pain and suffering in the world- children dying, starvation, uncared for widows and orphans, and the list goes on. My “first world problems” that I am griping about on a plush couch, fully clothed, in an air-conditioned home while my beautiful, well-fed children are surrounding me somehow pale in comparison to people getting their heads chopped off for not converting to Islam. I hate to be so blunt, but that is the truth of what is going on in this world right now.

    My pastor just today was speaking about the Israelites wandering in the wilderness. They were punished for complaining.

    “Now these things became our examples, to the intent that we should not lust after evil things as they also lusted. And do not become idolaters as were some of them. As it is written, ‘The people sat down to eat and drink, and rose up to play.’ Nor let us commit sexual immorality, as some of them did, and in one day twenty-three thousand fell; nor let us tempt Christ, as some of them also tempted, and were destroyed by serpents; nor complain, as some of them also complained, and were destroyed by the destroyer. Now all these things happened to them as examples, and they were written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the ages have come.” 1 Corinthians 10:6-11 (NKJV)

    Even if someone is truly asking for advice, then that is what they should do… ask for advice. Period. It should not be a “poor me” situation because God does not want us to complain. Especially after everything He has done for us and given us- we should have extraordinarily grateful spirits.

    However, if you do choose to ask for advice via social media, understand three things:

    You are asking a lot of people, many of with whom you should not be sharing such personal information. Sometimes we forget that the “friends” we have through our social media are not actually people with whom we would feel comfortable sharing deep feelings over a cup of coffee in real life. If you wouldn’t feel comfortable sharing information with them to their faces, why share it over the internet where it is stored and saved forever? Don’t let the comfort of sitting behind a screen cloud your judgement.
    You are going to be judged based on what you put out there (whether that is “right” of other people or not- I won’t even try to delve into that), and people may judge your children and husband based on posts you make about them… be careful.
    Doing it for popularity is never a good reason. In fact, it is a terrible reason. First of all, seeking popularity is a pride-driven goal. You need to repent of that sin and make fulfilling God’s purpose your focus. If your reason for seeking advice or writing a sad status is to achieve “likes” or “comments”, then you are seeking attention.

    Let me be clear. I believe we have all been guilty of at least some of these things, and I know that I definitely struggle with pride. I fail so often. I complain, I over-share, and I vent. And I am speaking from experience on the “wanting likes and comments” point. We each have a sin nature. It is natural for us to become prideful; however, just because something is natural does not mean it is right. We have to strive to obey the Lord each and every day (scratch that- each moment), fight the good fight, run the race.

    “Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us.” Hebrews 12:1 (NKJV)

    All of that was in response to a blog post Authentically~Sheen wrote recently that I whole-heartedly agree with. Check out her post below, and head over to https://authenticallysheen.wordpress.com and show her some love.


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